Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Festival As A Verb

I love Fall. I love my family. I love Fall-festivalling with my family (see previous years here and here). Seriously though (and this deserves a blog post all its own), my immediate family members are my best friends. I love those guys and everyday wish with all of my being that we lived in the same place. Truth be told I often get sad thinking about my sister and me, both stay-at-home Moms doing the same things everyday, yet living three hours away from each other. I mean, we could be doing all of these things TOGETHER.

But anyway. This past weekend was our little town's little Fall Festival. Although I am thinking they must have put it in the newspaper down in Phoenix or something because there were so, so many people down there. We had a great time though, and luckily we arrived just as it began so we could hightail it out of there before 1pm when it started to get really packed. It's always a fun event- tons of things for kids to do between the jumpy castles, booths to trick-or-treat, and even a little pumpkin patch. It's events like this that make me love where we live even more, and grateful that there's always something fun to do with kids. And even though sometimes Hank and I dream of big cities and different places, right now small town life is really the life for us.

Here are some photos from our weekend- I hope you had a lovely one too!

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Monday, October 28, 2013

A Ray of Sunshine and a Burst of Energy

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I was thinking about my boy this weekend. I mean, I think about him everyday (every minute, every second really), but I had a few moments to myself in the middle of a lot of moments full of family, and I got to thinking about our almost-three-year-old. To know Henry is to know a super spirited, funny, wild-at-heart boy. He's a ray of sunshine and burst of energy. He's serious in one moment, with his brow furrowed in concentration, lips pursed, and he's laughing until his cheeks hurt in another- that wide grin crinkling his happy brown eyes. It's still surreal to me that my first baby will be three in three weeks. I know I'll be saying this all my life, when he turns five and ten and thirty and fifty, but like anyone who has a child in their life, it's always surreal, and time always seems to fly by quicker than it did the year before.

So I just wanted to capture him today, right now, everything about him. The way he says "ganks" instead of "thanks," the chipped tooth smile that always melts me, the laugh he lets out when he's really excited about something. I want to remember his bedhead, the way he says "cuddle with me, Mommy?" with that little smile on his face, the scent of his hair after a bath and the way I can always, always make any boo-boo better. I never want to forget the way Charlie looks at his big brother, and the gentle and sweet way Henry is with him. The "Mighty Machines" song, singing the ABCs with his own flair, and the booty shake he does when he hears a song he loves. Henry right now is peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (no crust), any raw veggie, and drink after drink of water. He's all about trains and trucks and puzzles, and he would love nothing more than to build forts all day long with his Daddy. He's a happy kid, a stubborn, head-strong, occasionally hot-tempered one, but most of all he the sweetest, kindest person I know, always wanting to make sure everyone is doing okay. His heart is so big.

Henry at almost-three finds joy in every bit of every day, from picking out clothes to crunching into a piece of crispy toast, and his laughs and smiles and funny stories keep us going. As I type this I could almost cry thinking about everything he gives to me- the things he's taught me and the way he pushes me to be better. Each morning when I get up I try so hard to be the person Henry sees me as, and at the end of the day if I've accomplished that, even a little bit, I feel like it's been a success. I can't even imagine what these next three years will bring.

I love you, H.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Friday, October 25, 2013

Weekend Links

Halloween Festival 2012
Flashback Friday: a little shark at the Halloween festival last year.
Henry was also a cheeseburger for the actual day of Halloween...I loved both costumes so much.

Link time!

H&M sent Henry the cuuutest Pirate costume from their new Halloween collection for kids, in partnership with UNICEF. The costume is really great quality for the price, and he's been living in it. The collection is also perfect if you need a quick, last minute costume this weekend (they have them in the stores), or even want to stock up your kids' dress-up chest, and 25% of the proceeds go to the charity.

A good read: I'm Not Going To Tell You You're Beautiful

THIS PIE.

Two of my favorites: Kelli and Pale Violet.

Thinking about pulling the trigger on these. They're expensive, but I think they'll be worth the investment; one lifelong great pair, rather than buying cheaper boots more often. Thoughts?

Yum: mini apple and cinnamon bundt cakes.

Did you know men in love walk slower?

If you're looking for an easy way to plan healthy meals, check out Chef Karolina's monthly meal plans. And use code FIRSTMONTH to receive half off your first month. I've used her plans and love them, so definitely give them a look.

A fun blog to read: say hi to Jenn! Then pop over to Lesley's space- she's one of my favorites and super inspiring.

What the what?! People spend almost $650,000 a day on Candy Crush Saga. Yes, it's true.

Loving this tour of Amy's studio

Faturday: when eating what you want is cheating.

Etsy wishlist (seriously...I want ALL of these things): one, two, and three.

Love this post over on Kaelah's blog.

9 reasons to boycott slutty costumes this Halloween. And yes, she addresses her usage of "slutty," a word I personally don't like using myself. 

I really enjoy Jen's space online- she's so wonderfully real, and I like that her fashion posts include items I would actually wear and do buy.

Wants: for Charlie, for Henry, and for me. And speaking of wants, be sure to use code "sometimessweet" to take 15% your purchase at Love Threads until the end of the month.

Why women have a complicated love affair with wine.

Eating Whole. So excited about Lauren's new blog!

7 literary costumes for Halloween.

Hurricane Sandy, one year later.

Did you see this photo I posted on IG? Don't forget you can take $15 off of those flats with code "checkoutflat" until 10/29.

And finally, THIS is why you should love teenage girls.

Happy weekend! xoxo


Thursday, October 24, 2013

Things That I Really Don't Like, That Everyone Else Seems To Like.

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a thumbs up photo from the past...because I don't have a thumbs down picture. 

Sometimes while on Twitter I have these moments where I think, "AM I THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD THAT DOESN'T LIKE _______?!" I feel like this happens a lot. And then the other day one of my best pals Alex turned his weekly podcast to the topic of "foods you hate that everyone else loves," and it made my day to hear about all of these weird things that people don't like.

I love blogging and social media for a million reasons but one of the biggest is that we're able to put stuff out there, and find other people who can relate. And in the same moment, connect with all of these other people who see things completely differently, and that's just as awesome. And when it comes to obviously very serious topics, like Nutella or Pumpkin Spice whatever, it's even cooler.

So here are the things I really don't like, that everyone else seems to like, and of course at the end of this you have to tell me if you are with me on any of these things, and then tell me your list too. Deal?

The list:

Nutella
Pumpkin-flavored things
Soda or any sort of sweet drink (besides cherry-limeades from Sonic. But only in the summer. It's that ice!)
Chipotle (the restaurant)
Caffeinated drinks...anything caffeinated. And yes, that means I don't drink coffee. I find that this is really weird to people.
Arrested Development
Cookie Butter from Trader Joe's
chewing gum
melon, but I specifically dislike cantaloupe and honeydew, and watermelon most of the time. But fake watermelon flavoring is especially bad.

That's all I can think of right now, but if I think of more I'll add some. This is kind of a weird Livejournal-esque post but I like it. And now I want to know what's on your list...

Happy (almost) Friday. xoxo

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

What Works for Us: Bedtime Edition

I was thinking the other night about how universal this whole mothering thing is. Sure, we all do things differently and sometimes may feel like our way is the right way (something I'm trying to stop doing- thinking that my way of doing or thinking is the best and most desirable way of doing anything), but at the end of the day no matter how we do it, if you're mothering, you're a mother.

I got to thinking about how much I love hearing about how other people do things, especially when they are parents. When I meet a new friend who happens to be a Mom or a Dad I always want to pick their brain- what's bedtime like in your house? What's dinnertime like? How old are your kids? What do they like to eat? Do you get time to yourself? Questions, questions. And then I thought that maybe some of you are the same way...which led me to want to share all of these things with you, piece by piece. I also like the idea of having all of this documented- I feel like one day when I'm old and gray I'll get a kick out of knowing what life was like, down to the minute, way back when. And maybe someone out there is a curious person like me too.

It's sometimes weird to share good things in parenting- occasionally I feel like if something is going really well, like Henry having a 5-day streak with no potty accidents- it might sound braggy if shared. And I hate that! I want to share good things, but sometimes the big world wide web has me second guessing that. Can you relate? But like anything, parenting has good days and bad days, hard things and easy things.

Bedtime for us right now, at 2 years and 11 months, and 8 weeks old, is very scheduled. Of course we try to be flexible whenever possible but it works best when we do it the way we do it every night, night after night. On the evenings we're out and about, or a weekend night, we definitely push it, but falling asleep that night and going through the next day are so much better when we adhere to our routines the night before. So here's how it goes:

Hank gets home from work around 5:15pm and at that point I usually hand over Charlie, who most likely woke up from his afternoon nap around 4pm. Hank will play with both kiddos while I make dinner, and around 5:45pm we will give Charlie a bath while dinner is finishing up. Hank usually handles most of the bathtime duties but depending on what Henry is into or how dinner is going I'll help out too. More often than not the whole family will end up in our bathroom hanging out while C is getting his bath, Henry almost always finding his way into our closet to "look for treasure" and me sitting on the bathroom counter.

After bath time Hank will hand Charlie to me, and I'll get him in his pajamas, put his Snuza on, and zip him into his wearable blanket. I'll then get cozy in our bed with him, Boppy around my waist, water on the nightstand. Hank and Henry will come over and say goodnight, and then Hank will turn on the monitor and the noise machine and then those two will go eat dinner and read, play, whatever- total Daddy and Henry time.


I spend about 15 minutes or so nursing Charlie and he will always fall asleep within that 15 minute time frame. I'll then burp him and put him in his little co-sleeper, sit there for a minute to be sure he's down, then quietly get up and leave the room (we have a baby monitor in there). This is all by 6:15pm. He's SUCH a funny baby, and will start to get really fussy if he's not in bedtime mode once 6pm rolls around. He really loves his sleep, and wants to sleep, and I've found that if we try to put him down even a little earlier (even if he's fussy) he will have a hard time going down and staying asleep. 6pm is our magic time, but if we have to push it later he's okay too. Luckily Charlie is a good sleeper, so after I put him down he will stay asleep for quite some time. Lately it's been getting later and later. First he'd wake up at 9:30pm, then 12:30, and now he's been sleeping until about 3:30am and sometimes 4. My big problem is actually going to bed early myself to take advantage of that big chunk of sleep (as I type this it's approaching 9:30pm already). But that's Charlie's bedtime routine.

Henry on the other hand can be a little more challenging depending on the day and his mood. He's a typical almost-3-year old so he can alternate between being very cooperative to not at all. So while I'm putting Charlie to bed Hank and Henry are playing, but once 6:30 rolls around we pop Henry in the tub and give him a bath, then brush his teeth and put on his pajamas. Henry is pretty much potty-trained except for nighttime and still wears diapers to sleep, but sometimes he will want to try and "go" like 4-5 times before bed. I'm sure this is just him prolonging staying up, but it's hard to discourage that when it's what we want him to be doing. So sometimes that can add on extra time to his ideal 7pm bedtime but Hank and I just try to be patient.

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After we finish up all of our bathroom stuff it's reading time. Hank, Henry and I will all pile into his bed and read 4-5 books together before our "Mommy-Daddy-Henry-time" (as he calls it), which is really just a big snuggle session. He started to really ask for "snugs" every night once Charlie was born and it's so adorable to me that I can tell he really treasures this time just the three of us. So we cuddle up and talk about our day, say "I love you" a million times, then Hank and I will get up and leave (probably after about 10 minutes), turn on his sound machine and monitor, and close his door and put up the baby gate on the outside. We never stay in there while he falls asleep and never have, because I wanted him to be able to do it on his own. 9 out of 10 times bedtime is smooth sailing but every once and awhile Henry will call for us to come back in for more "Mommy-Daddy-Henry-time" or and this is where we have to get firm. It's funny though, because he still asks to get out of his bed (let's hope this lasts for a long while), so we've never had an issue with that- it's mainly just him calling for us because he wants to hang out more, needs water when he doesn't, etc. A few months back he went through a phase where he was freaked out by shadows on the wall but that passed, thankfully. He sleeps the whole night through and wakes up around 6:30am, sometimes 7 if we're lucky, but sleeps hard and rarely wakes up in the night. Our next challenge though will be losing the diapers during nighttime sleeping, so if you have any tips, let me know!


So that's how we do bedtime. Both boys are good sleepers and besides luck, I really attribute that to following a schedule from day one with Henry. Charlie is down at 6pm and Henry at 7. It was all trial and error with Henry (as it is with most first children when you have NO idea what you're doing), but once we figured out the magic time for him it was so much easier.

Does our bedtime routine look similar to yours? Is there anything special you do? Any routines you'd like to share? You know me and my questions...so do tell!

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And p.s., I'm planning on continuing this little series to talk in detail about different parts of our day, so if you have something you're curious about, let me know in the comments!


Monday, October 21, 2013

Pumpkin Picking

Sometimes all you need is a little time running around in crisp, Fall air with your family to make everything in the world seem right again. It was Charlie's first visit to the pumpkin patch, and he spent almost all of it snuggled up in the wrap, sleeping soundly. This wasn't Henry's first time (see here and here), but it was the first year I feel like he really got it. Last year he wasn't even two yet, and although it was a great time, this go-round he was able to do a lot more. Some highlights: Henry's first carousel ride without getting scared, going on the train all by himself, and before they took off asking the conductor if he could stop to get Hank and me sunflowers from the field (I died from how adorable that was), and the huge smile on his face as he ran around and explored. It was a really, really fun day, and it made me even more excited thinking of all the fun to come with our new, bigger family...because really, nothing's better than being able to enjoy holiday festivities through the eyes of a child, and now, we have two (still feels weird to say that!). 





Saturday, October 19, 2013

Weekend Links & Charlie's Birth Announcements


Before I get into this week's links I wanted to share Charlie's birth announcements with all of you. Tiny Prints graciously gifted us some to send to our friends and family and they turned out so, so well. I had a hard time choosing just one favorite (I also loved these two), but ultimately I ended up picking this one because I could add a few photos...and STRIPES! I wanted to share them here because one, I was really happy with Tiny Prints' service and the quality of the cards, but also because I feel like they really have a great selection of invites and cards at a great price. I'll be working with them again soon and I'm looking forward to sharing some of their amazing holiday cards in the future- they have a ton. And on a side note, it's positively insane to talk about anything holiday related, even though it's only two months away. Craziness. In the meantime, here are some links to enjoy:

This sweater is perfection. It's on my wishlist for Henry, for sure. And for Charlie, this romper is amazing.

The Insidious Power of Not-Quite-Harassment

More Delia Ephron. <3

Deal alert: check out my pal Sara's Etsy shop, and use code SometimesSweet for 10% off- expires 10/31. 

Vermont in the fall. My favorite.

College Men: Stop Getting Drunk.

Be Kind. And while you're in shopping mode, check out Kindred Oak's Fall/Winter line.

Apple picking never looked so good.

Love this "Rodarte braid" hair tutorial.

A powerful read- Justice for Daisy.

This is one beautiful ring.

I want to try these! Lemon anything is my favorite.

15 great cookbooks for fall.

Hocus Pocus meets Sex and the City. YES.

Wishlist: these boots, this ring, and this book.

"Good and Ready." So super cute.

This post has me aching to take a trip.

One of my favorite blogs, ever. Such beautiful photos and great words.

Overnight pumpkin butter. This looks great.

A must-share: 26 truly thrilling grilled cheese sandwiches.

Going to a festival like this one is on my must-do list.

OBSESSED with this bag and everything in this shop.

Gloria Steinem and Miley Cyrus.

And finally, did you know that Japan has "internet fasting camps" to help screen-addicted kids? Wild.

Happy Weekend! xoxo



Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Charlie, Two Months Old


Two months and really, it feels like it's been two days. That's the theme of these monthly posts though- where has the time gone, how is this possible, look how big he suddenly is. The usual. And of course this month is no different, although I do think month two is always a little crazy because it's really the first big jump from newborn to actual baby. Suddenly your tiny infant is so much more alert, awake for much longer during the day, and beginning to turn into a smiling, cooing little person.

Charlie is really the biggest sweetheart. He's just beginning to smile, but even when he isn't I swear I can see the kindness in his eyes. He also has a particular look he gets when Hank, Henry or I are trying to make him smile- it's almost like he's thinking "okay guys, I get it. You guys are nerds." And the way he looks at Henry and just grins is one of my most favorite things, ever. He tracks Henry across the room, and as soon as he hears his voice, perks up. This month Charlie is also starting to figure out what his arms and legs do, and it's fun to watch him begin to make the connection. Not quite there, but it's a start. He's also been starting to be a little more vocal, making little coos and sighs. And the very best noise? Definitely the little one he makes after he sneezes. I'll have to share a video of it sometime soon.

All in all these past two months have flown by. Most days wonderful, some days super tough, but I wouldn't trade even a second of it for the world. Even when he wakes up at 2:30am and I'm exhausted, I'm thankful because I know won't be getting up in the middle of the night to change a diaper forever. This is a season, a short one at that, and I never want to rush it by or wish it away. So really, I love it all. The good, the bad, the tough, the really tough- because I will never, ever be here again with my tiny Charlie babe experiencing him as he is right now. 

Happy 2-months, sweet boy.

Charlie's Two Month Photos
Charlie's Two Month Photos
Charlie's Two Month Photos
Charlie's Two Month Photos
Charlie's Two Month Photos
Charlie's Two Month Photos


Details: Onesie and leggings via The Gap
             Crib sheet c/o IvieBaby
              White chair via Amazon
              Pillow via The Modern Baby
Blabla doll c/o Scoutmob

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Be Careful

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This morning the boys and I walked down to the park to meet up with my friend Lauren and her daughter Brooke, toy cars and a bag to collect rocks and leaves in tow. We've had the most beautiful weather lately, those kind of days that start out really cold but then slowly, slowly warm up ever so gently as noon rolls around; the kind where you begin the day bundled up but by afternoon you're in a t-shirt and jeans. Pretty perfect.

And today we walked down to the park in this gorgeous weather, and ran into another friend and her boys. I always find it fascinating to watch Henry interact with other kids, and even more fascinating to hear a lot of the things I say to him come out of his mouth. One of the boys had a toy car Henry so badly wanted to play with and I was curious how he would handle the situation with an unfamiliar playmate- we work on sharing all day, everyday, but with each other and our familiar friends, like Max and Brinley- not always with people we don't know. So I stood back and watched. I heard him say so politely, "hi, may I have a turn? I'd really like to try out your toy." And this very sentence just so happens to be what I say to him when we're playing, almost verbatim. It was wild to realize that yes, this parenting thing is working, and also crazy to think about how much he is taking in, even when I don't always notice.

So the morning went on and the kids kept playing, and soon the boys ventured away from the climbing equipment and onto the hiking trail that's directly behind the larger playground. My first instinct was to tell Henry not to go (what if there were snakes in the grass! or sharp, thorny bushes! or...something!) but I held back my immediate urge to yell "Henny, be CAREFUL!" and instead thought about my own childhood. I grew up in the forest, trees on all sides, deep, deep woods for acres and acres. My sister and I would spend hours exploring- turning over rocks, collecting leaves and acorns, digging in the dirt and taking the trails behind our home when we got a bit older. I remember so much of that, and I remember feeling safe and protected. But what I don't remember is my Mom yelling, "Danielle! Be CAREFUL!" every two minutes, or anytime she may have felt like we could get dirty or hurt.

Parenting, in a nutshell, is letting go of your child a little more everyday. It's growing together while growing apart, and giving them enough room to become who they will be. I'm learning this. And although it's hard for me to embrace my laid-back side, the side that doesn't mind when Henry jumps into a mud puddle with his "good" shoes on, or wants to venture into uncharted territory without holding my hand, I'm realizing that all of this is important in Henry's growth. Outside of normal situations that are just plain unsafe, he needs to be free to explore and learn and figure out things on his own. At almost three my baby boy is truly turning into his own person, and the only way he will ever fully become that person is for me to let go of my own tendencies to hold on maybe a little too tight.

So today when I held back my "be careful" and instead watched Henry run through the fields of thorny bushes and yellow flowers, I got to see my little boy grow a little older and gain a little more confidence. And guess what? He was careful, without me even saying a word. And when playtime was over and it was time to pack up and walk home, my wild-child dug a half-crushed flower out of the pocket of his gray jeans and said, "for you, Mommy."

This parenting stuff is tricky, but I'm learning a little more everyday, right alongside Henry and Charlie. And this yellow flower is sitting here on my desk, to remind me that it's okay to let kids be kids. I don't have to control every moment, hold Henry back because of my own fears. We work on building him up, and everyday we need to teach him to fly, little by little, until one day, he can do it all on his own.


Friday, October 11, 2013

Our Weekend in Numbers

1: number of museums visited. The Children's Museum of Phoenix to be exact. And Arizona friends, did you know that Bank of America customers go free the first full weekend of each month?

3: number of kiddos we went with- Danny and Janay's little girl Harper and our two boys.

1: number of chocolate milk boxes consumed at snack time in the museum.

6: number of times Erin said "ugh! This makes me want to make stuff!" while looking around the museum.

10: number of seconds (at least) Hank and laughed for, when Henry went into the play shopping area and acted exactly like we act while grocery shopping. It's insane what your kids pick up, when you don't realize they're watching you.

50 (at least): number of times we said something like "this place is awesome!" while walking through the museum. We've been there a few times, but it never gets old and Henry absolutely loves it.

6: number of people in our car on the way to our hotel for the staycation my whole family went on: my Mom, Dad, Hank, me, Henry and Charlie. Although two carseats kind of count for two people each. Thank god for the third row.

3: number of pool toys we brought to the hotel, which on a related note- we loved. It was the perfect place to just get away with our family and feel like we were on vacation. We'll definitely be back.

4: number of dinner spots rejected before we decided on a local pizza spot.

5: number of desserts ordered between all of us to share from room service, once we got back to the hotel. My favorite? The cheesecake chimichangas.

4: number of items at the bagel shop Sunday morning that made me feel like I was home in New Jersey: black and white cookies, Wise potato chips, crumb cake, and their potato salad. So good.

2,539: number of times Henry said "you guys, I LOVE our family."

Weekend made with that last one.

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*Hotel rooms courtesy of Radisson.